Understanding Anxiety in Autism: A Parent's Guide to Helping Your Child Feel Calm, Safe, and Confident
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The Autism Research Group (part of City University) have published a new document all about Anxiety in Autism. Have a read here.
It's very common for autistic children to feel anxious—you're not alone, and neither is your child. About 40% of autistic kids experience significant anxiety, much more than other children. Anxiety might show up differently in autism. Your child might get worried or upset about small changes, unusual sounds, or social situations—not necessarily because they fear embarrassment, but maybe because they find the world unpredictable or confusing.
There are three big reasons why anxiety can be harder for autistic children:
Uncertainty: Autistic children often find unpredictability very stressful and might use routines or repetitive behaviours to cope.
Sensory sensitivities: The world can seem overwhelming to autistic kids due to heightened sensitivity to sounds, lights, textures, or smells.
Trouble recognising feelings: Many autistic children struggle to identify and describe their emotions, making it difficult for them to manage anxiety when it appears.
There are practical things you can do to help:
Make things predictable: Using visual timetables and social stories can reduce anxiety about what's happening next.
Sensory support: Providing safe, calming spaces or sensory tools like stress balls or headphones can reduce overwhelming sensations.
Mindfulness or relaxation techniques: Simple exercises that help your child gently notice and accept their feelings can make anxiety easier to handle.
Professional support: Therapies like adapted Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) or mindfulness programmes specially developed for autism can be very effective.
Most importantly, remember anxiety is something separate from autism itself, and with understanding and the right support, your child’s anxiety can improve significantly, allowing them—and you—to feel calmer, happier, and more confident.